I’d like you to think about something else though. When we talk about being sorrowful over the sins and sufferings of other people, that, also, is in the Bible, includes doing something about it. Psalm 25:10 says:
Psa. 25:10 – My whole being will exclaim, “Who is like You, O LORD? You rescue the poor from those too strong for them – the poor and needy from those who rob them – take up the case of those who cannot defend or help themselves.”
So that is a part of that. As we become aware of what’s going on around us in society, we don’t just feel bad about it. We want to do something about it. That’s a part of mourning.
I went to a really interesting meeting yesterday. It was a training for judges, attorneys and mental health professionals about the tough custody cases. I know we’ve all heard the horror stories about what judges have done in awarding kids to the wrong parent. We’ve all heard those stories. But I doubt that many of us have ever considered what judges hear and know about these things. I know that, until yesterday, I never had. But I received an awakening. I sat all day long with over a hundred professional people – most of them lawyers and judges – some mental health people – and the distinct impression I gained from all of them was that they were there to help. Do you know who they were the most concerned about? The children. They were concerned about the kids. And do you know who were the most determined and indignant of that group? The lawyers. They were the most outspoken and the most indignant about the things that were talked about there.
We went over a number of case histories, where children had been mentally abused in the battle for their custody by their parents. I looked around the room and I saw people sighing, shaking their heads and, sometimes, even gasping in distress about the things that they were hearing. They were mourning.
One example that I distinctly remember was: the presenter had made the statement that he was against 50/50 custody and the lawyers were taking him to task about that. They were questioning him. He said that he was against 50/50 custody because years ago he was interviewing a five-year-old, and he asked the child, “Where is your home?” And the child, with watery eyes, said, “My dad has a home and my mom has a home, but I don’t.” So, from then on, he was always against 50/50 custody, because a child needs a home more than parents do. When he said that, there was a audible reaction in the room – to that story – again, mostly from the attorneys.
I think those of us in the mental health thing, we hear that stuff all the time, but the attorneys, perhaps, don’t so much. But they wanted to do something to help children who are used as a weapon by parents against each other in their battle of hatred toward one another. So, it’s really easy for us to put other people down. Most of the things that we know about judges are from television – not real life. And usually, when we hear stories about how people were ripped off by judges, we’re only getting their side of the story –not the other side, as well. It was kind of an eye-opening experience for me and, frankly, they set a really good example for me, I felt.